Have you ever been involved with someone on other aspects, who was initially just a friend? Probably that is something you have never planned when you started as friends. Friends with benefits are the high end new definition for the youth to justify the physical demands and need of the weak moment.

Many also call it casual sex. Do these relations actually land up anywhere or the fun to have a relation without any commitment is tempting? Well, every coin has two sides and casual sex does work for many but in parts. Youth today have taken the concept of friendship, love and relationship to the next level.

Thanks to the increase in the number of failed marriages and relations, men and women do not take the commitment thing very seriously and like playing with the opposite sex frequently.

There are many reasons that have triggered the growth of casual sex:

Failed affairs:

Girls and boys who have tasted the bad side of a relation often identify with each other. This creates a friendship that is ready for anything. They know that they are not ready for another round for love and take casual sex as a healthy thing. They find it simple way to find pleasure without any commitment to marry or have babies. No tall promises, no hookups and no qualms, youngsters seems to be quite happy about it.

Easy walkout:

Since both the person know that they don’t want any outcome apart some quality time, they can always restore to ‘back-to-friends’ mode. No complex breakup hassles, no wet tissues and no explanations, the relation doesn’t have a start or an end. No rules apply to casual sex and it’s completely consensus.

Physical attraction:

Sometimes it’s purely the appearance of a friend that bowls the other. Even if they are engaged and have a committed relation, they go ahead with casual sex without any future expectations. Friends with benefits know that this is very practical way to be physical with someone you like and admire.

But the consequences are often ignored by most people who enjoy physical intimacy with friends. Often small feelings can be the reason for landing up in a complex emotional turmoil. The dark side of casual sex is something that remains ignored and often prices are heavy to pay both at emotional and personal level.

End of friendship:

Unless you change your partners regularly or have done it a few times with other friends, it is not so easy to face the opposite person. Often if you land up having an uncomfortable situation because of an accidental sexual incident, you might not ever be the same friends again.

Girls especially, find it quite difficult to just move on. Complication with other friends: Having casual sex with one in a group of friends gives out a bad image to the rest, in case the relation comes to light. As such having a serious relation with another, in the same circle, will mean having problems from day one. So before indulging in the weak physical moment with a friend, make a bond to keep the things under the wraps.

Devaluing of relations:

Often youngsters who have been involved with friends and have taken mutual physical benefits, they can’t have faith on relations. This is because they have seen fake happiness in relations can be derived anywhere and with anyone. So why bother to make commitment and have the hassles of a full time relation? This overtime gets on them and they can’t remain faithful, even after they get married.

So to get involved with a friend, know the complications and circumstantial things that can happen. It is not a crime to have casual sex, in fact often sexual intimacy triggers love and gives way to better emotional relations. There are can be many outcomes of a sexual relation with a friend in both positive and negative directions, therefore keeping a few things in mind can help you be safe and think in a more broaden manner.

Know your friendship:

First things first, in case you find mutual sexual attraction, talk to your friend. Do not hesitate in taking how you are guys are going to perceive the relation later on. After you lose the attraction, will you both be able to resume normal life as two friends and individuals?

Keep it secret:

While many might be involved in such accidental or planned casual sex, nobody will ever empathize with your situation. So, in the best interest of yourself and your partner, ensure that you don’t create a social drama out of this. In case either of the two is already in a relation, it is more important to just forget the event as a bad dream.

Play safe:

No matter how attracted and emotional you feel in the weakest moment, do not forget to have protection while having sex. This is mandatory as often you can land in unwanted pregnancy trouble and pay heavily on every ground.

Do not get emotions in between:

Studies show that sex has triggered love many a times unlike the other way around. But being very practical, do not let some emotional thing come in between casual sex as things might die even sooner you start the feelings. Most people take guilt, pleasure as the love in such cases and end up making a fool of themselves and their partner.

Always remember the cause:

Most important is to remember that you are doing it for just one reason: pleasure. Have the guts to keep it clear with the other person, so that nobody feels cheated or played. This is a small time affair and has no substantial fruitful meaning, so knowing that with a sound mind is always great.

Above everything, know yourself if you want to get involved with your friend. The pleasure and fun is no doubt, more than what your boyfriend and girlfriend (with those rules attached) can give you. It excites and gives temptations and you and your friend are the best person to judge it.

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