Sex is an important part of marriage or relationship between partners. But after years of being together, sex to most people becomes more of chore than love making. That is when you need to add an extra zing to your relationship. Now, this is easier said than done.

In a long term relationship, by the time career takes over and kids grow up, couples find lesser time for themselves and small things like going out on a date, watching a movie together, taking off on a small trip become a far fetched idea only.

This becomes the first sign of getting apart from each other and one of the main reasons of the rising divorce rate. So, how do you save your relationship from the lemons that life throws at you? Simple, you need to master the art of foreplay.

In a relationship, there are simpler solutions to more complicated situations. You might think foreplay is not much important during sex, but the fact is it’s just as important as sex itself, especially when sex begins to feel like a job you need to do.

Foreplay makes you relax, take time and make love to the partner/spouse and arouse them to feelings they thought were lost. If you’re really willing to work on your relationship, foreplay is the way to go. Here is how foreplay makes for a satisfying relationship:

Getting Started

The term “foreplay” means sensual and sexual stimulation. It can take you to greater heights of passion and pleasure and make you and your partner take the relationship to a new level of mutual consciousness.

Remember, women take longer to get into mood than men. Rushing into sex with a woman means not having her full attention. Same applies for men who take time to get aroused.

Start your foreplay long before getting into bed with your partner. Put sexy messages in his jacket or in her purse. Leave a passionate voicemail on your partner’s cell phone telling how much you love her and can’t wait to see her or how he makes you feel beautiful.

Take your partner out for dinner, hold hands, do something very romantic that you haven’t done for a long time. Keep inventing new ways of exciting your partner through the day/week, so when you’re together, the passion explodes. Creating sexual desire ahead of the sex is the main motive of foreplay in a relationship.

The Foreplay Starts

The actual foreplay takes a lot of time and concentration. A relationship thrives on partners giving each other the due time and importance. Create a mood based on your preference as a couple. For a successful foreplay relationship, take shower together or lay in your bathtub full of bubbles with wine and nice music.

Fragrance Oils

Buy fragrance oils and rub on each other. Give your partner a massage for a long time, till he/she is aroused. Start with the feet, which can be a little ticklish and work your way up. Always avoid the spine and work your way up to the breast area. It is very important in relationship to know which part of your partner’s body carries the most of the tension and concentrate on relaxing your partner.

Kiss Your Partner

Every relationship needs physical assurance of love. Kiss your partner passionately without losing eye contact. It is important that you “show” you care. While kissing, slowly start moving your hands around each others’ body so the arousal starts but does not reach it’s peak.

Take Off the Top/Shirt

Taking off clothes is a huge turn on for partners in a relationship. While kissing, start taking off your partner’s top/shirt. But remember not to rip off the clothes while undressing each other. Foreplay is all about patience and showing gentle love.

Slowly unbutton her top or his shirt and get down. Start kissing his bare chest or the outskirts of her bra, move your hands around your partner’s ribcage and waist. Slowly take off her bra and touch her breasts with your lips, but refrain from sucking the nipples. You’re teasing your partner, the foreplay isn’t over yet!

The Massage

After the bra is off, start kissing her and massage up and down her back. Slowly but gently, rub her back and make all way down to her butt. Put your hands around her outer thighs and lift her up. It is time for you to open another chapter of your foreplay relationship – take her to bed.

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Arouse the Passion

The foreplay relationship won’t work unless the passion is at its peak. Lay beside your partner with both your pants on. Start to mimic a penetration on her and while he’s trying to foreplay a penetration, let your imaginations run wild. Embrace the ambience, be conscious of the love you feel for each other and start kissing each other very gently.While you try to penetrate with pants on, chances of erection a high and the arousal reaches its peak.

Undress Completely

It’s time to take every piece of clothing off your partner’s body. As soon as you start undressing her, start licking and kissing that part of her body. Do not rush the process; this is not your everyday sex. Appreciate her body, her love, her companionship and the loving relationship. When you’re done undressing her, take off your clothes and lie naked beside her.

Ending Foreplay

In the finale of the foreplay relationship with your partner, apply some lubricant and start rubbing your penis very gently up and down her vagina. Don’t just go in yet. Continue rubbing your penis into her clitoris.

At this point, your partner will beg you to get inside. This marks the end of your foreplay and beginning of sex. A successful foreplay can do wonders for your sex life. A better sex life also ensures a better understanding with your partner.  This is a tried and tested road taken by many to improve their relationship and pronounce their love for each other.

Foreplay will help you build a trustworthy relationship with your partner, create intimacy and enhance emotional comfort between both of you.

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